Day 5: Helping Your Child Grieve

October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month! This week leading up to October 15th, I am partnering with fellow loss mama and writer, Liz Mannegren, to help create discussion and raise awareness about this vitally important topic. This Motherhood Story Day 5:How have you helped your child grieve the loss of his or her sibling(s)? If you have not yet entered this emotional space, what wishes do you have to help your child grieve the loss of his or her sibling(s)? One aspect of pregnancy loss that I never considered was having to help my eldest through the loss...

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The Death of a Pet

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When I went downstairs this morning I noticed that Goldie, our new golden gouramis fish was lifeless at the bottom of the tank. We had only brought her home last week. Naturally, my husband would've scooped her up and flushed her, but we remembered that our five-year-old daughter was not yet home. She had spent the night at my parents' house and I knew that coming home to the death of a pet would create more questions than understanding.  M, our five-year-old, has been faced with more death and grief than a typical child her age. She has had to say...

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How I Talk To My Preschooler About Death


In my daughter's four years on this earth, I'd say she has experienced more death around her than a typical four-year-old. With the loss of two of her siblings, my husband and I agreed that we would always try to help her understand death by answering any questions she may have. Death is an abstract concept for a preschooler. Someone was here, and now they're not. What happened to them? Where are they now? Why do we say goodbye? How do we say goodbye? As a family, we have been navigating grief these past two years and often discuss the babies...

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I Wish It Was Just an April Fools’ Joke

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Dear Friend, I'm feeling anxious today. Actually I've been feeling anxious for this past week. I've been trying to figure out why because there has been no major event, no emotional trigger, but life has just continued with the everyday events as weeks before. Then I lift my eyes to the calendar. I see the days of March coming to an end. March 31 was the day I prayed the hardest tear-filled prayers I have ever lifted to heaven. I cried out to the Lord, "No, no, no. Please don't let this happen again." Please do not let me miscarry,...

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